Aw, I'm sorry you had such a difficult conversation with your friend. I would upset, too, if someone said that to me. You're trying the darnedest to be happy and you don't need anyone implying that you aren't. I think your friend was trying to be supportive in her own way by telling you what she sees about you, thinking that such an observation would be helpful to you. And it totally backfired for the both of you. You sound like you need empathy but no feedback or advice. Could you tell her that?