Why does it make them stuck up? If I was with a group of people that I knew, and I was talking about something personal in my life.. and then one of my friend's friends came by, I would stop talking about what was going on in my life. It doesn't mean that they're stuck up, just as it doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with you (and it especially wouldn't have anything to do with your height). There's no way to know what they were talking about, so it's easiest to assume that they were talking about something which they wouldn't talk about with someone they don't know. There isn't really a point in speculating about their reasonings or even speculating about their own failures with social situations; because there's nothing to be done about it.

But your own attitudes, assumptions, and behaviours you do have the ability to examine and change, and it seems like you're going to start on that! Aside from the fact that you sorta failed and made a HUGE negative assumption about them.

I'm going to post a link to another thread in this forum - it's in the Psychotherapy subforum. http://forums.psychcentral.com/psych...bout-them.html It's about Cognitive Distortions, which are the ways which our brains sorta treat us like crap. My T currently has me filling in a sheet after different "events" make me feel bad - I have to write down the negative thought(s), and then I have to go through the list of distortions and identify which ones were at play. Then I have to write a new, more appropriate, thought to follow it.

Something like that might be helpful to you, because you seem to have a lot of negative thoughts towards you and towards others!