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Originally Posted by Kalavara
My friend says he is but Mum says it's just how he's used to acting so I shouldn't let it bother me, but it does.
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Also, when he found out I was doing self-harm he yelled at me for making Mum worry ( although Mum shouted too about the family's reputation and about how I was stupid to do 'such a stupid thing' so shouting at me for that can't be too bad)
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Both your parents are emotionally abusive. Your Mum defends your Dad because she is the same way. They are defending each other. Look:
- when you are upset by your Dad's behavior, your Mum defends the Dad
- when you self-harm, your Dad faults you for making your Mum worry
So they are acting in concert, jointly, against you.
Very tough.
Also, to tell your child what he should feel IS emotional abuse. So your Mum is emotionally abusing you when she tells you that you should not be bothered by Dad's words, shouting, and throwing objects in your general direction.
When you say that his shouting at you cannot be too bad because your Mum shouts at you too, you are essentially saying that anything that your Mum does is perfect and not subject to criticism. Why do you say that? What is so special about your Mum that in your mind she is allowed to shout at you without your being bothered by it, but Dad is not so special, in that his shouting caused you to post this thread? Why such a preferential treatment of Mum?
Plus, it is really horrible - all she said about the reputation and stupidity.
So you are stuck with two abusive parents - I am sorry to say.