What sort of coping skills do you already use?

I've talked about it in loads of other threads, but I do a lot of telling my brain off. Literally. "KNOCK IT OFF BRAIN!" is one of my most recurrant thoughts.

I set goals for myself too. Usually there's more tangible goals and a few, larger, self-improvement goals. I do this so that I feel more of a success, because rewiring my brain has been going on for a decade and will likely be going on for another decade or so. But informing myself that despite it all, I will get my paperwork organized. Then I get that done and go "YEAH! I DID IT!" and then I will go on to the next one. Sometimes I throw in fun goals and rewards too like "Ok! You are going to get to a climbing wall when you're visiting your friends this summer!" That to me is a goal that I am really looking forward to doing, so I'm motivated to get my friends in on that one. If it fails? I'll be disappointed, but it's an opportunity to teach myself how to handle failure and disappointment in a logical way. "Oh, I didn't get to the climbing wall because X couldn't afford it/we were so busy doing other things/we got lost on the way there/etc" instead of beating myself up for not getting to do that.

At school, if my students start to get on my nerves? I'm honest to them. "I am HIGHLY DISPLEASED because of this behaviour from all of you." and then I will often redirect the lesson into something that they shouldn't need me help. And then I will do something in the room that needs done that involves me not having to talk to them. I can delay this if I'm in the middle of the lesson, because as I teach I'm reminding myself that they're kids, and that after I'm done with the lesson I can take a few minutes. If I have to I'll even say something like "Right now I am quite upset with this class because of X. I don't want to stay angry with you, and I know that you don't want me to stay angry either. So try really hard to work quietly and I am not going to respond to you for a few minutes. I need my minute." (I also allow them to take a minute or so out in the hall if they need to as well).