(((safe hugs to all)))

I will not minimalize anyone's experiences... but consider this: you are here discussing God and your faith. Could it be possible that had someone not suffered, that they would even acknowledge God in their life?

I was never a pragmatist as a young person. (I didn't believe the end justifies the means.) HOWEVER, I almost think God is. Now, I do think there are times that the end result is what is important, and not the method of getting there.

God sees the big picture. What is "forever" and "horrendous" for one here, might be a blip on the screen for Him...and much less horrible than something else might be. IDK, again, suffering is subjective and it's up to the sufferer to determine how badly it affected them. Their word is good enough for me.