Nessa, I would suggest that you go online to the Hazeldon Foundation website for a daily
meditation. That can help. You know that it's the little child within that's causing the
problems, and you may want to find the way to make her feel loved, comforted, safe,
and secure. We have to teach ourselves to do that.

Meditative reading is very helpful for that, I think. That little one just needs love and
care and you'll be fine. You would never be selfish is giving attention to that child
because it is only through her security that the ability to love, play, and share can
really be effective.

In my view, it's very important to care for the child within so that the adult can
function without fear, etc.