So true bohemian girl 85!! That is how it should be and sometimes things aren't the same for one person as another, i know i went to my prom in high heels and my date wouldn't be seen with me that night until i took off my high heels and walked on the hot pavement as he was very shorter than me, i don't know if he realized i love short men, and even bald men make me look twice. People taller and heavier seem to have a sence of more power to my personality, and i love it. I love the sence of freedom i get from having to not be judged or judged because of my weight,, i've gained alot but i even like myself better as i don't have to worry what others think of me, but i do wish i could lose a couple of pounds.