Thank you so much for understanding! I felt so alone like I was the only one that saw a problem with that. That was the last straw I think that just really shut me down. My Father had Leukemia and was sick for 2 years before he died. My husband was never "there" for me or my family all he cared about was when I would be there for him...When I needed comfort I got it from my family or my children who were more understanding then he ever was. Honestly I have been thinking of divorce for years but kept thinking I could make him see things and change but it's just never going to happen. I see my therapist again tomorrow.
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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster
Based on the story about your late dad's picture in your wallet, the guy is not only completely worthless, but also without any sense of right and wrong. And, since he is in his 40s, he cannot be helped.
So you are wasting time and money to the extent that you are trying to prolong it. You should just file for divorce without further ado. The sooner the better - you have one life to live. He is dangerous to be around - people who do not know right from wrong at all are dangerous.
The story about his controlling your whereabouts (your OP) is innocent in comparison with the story about your dad's picture in your wallet.
The story about the dad picture in your wallet is SO telling that I would say that it was an unintended litmus test that the guy did NOT pass, so consider yourself lucky that you obtained clarity through that incident.
A 10 year old child with normal emotional development would be able to behave correctly in the situation with the late dad's picture in your wallet. So, to the extent that you are still having sex with the husband, you are - on a symbolic level  - guilty of statutory rape, because he is emotionally underage. |