One recurring theme that I have picked up in recent conversations with my wife - and I believe this statement is what has become the end result of her feelings on the crossdressing - is that she no longer has "passion" for me, and she doesn't think she could ever get that back again.

That to me is somewhat of a game-changer, because I do think that passion can return to a marriage once the love becomes first and foremost again. Whether in regards to my situation or to that comment in general - can lost "passion" be found again? If so, how? Reading other forums on the topic the answers are all over the place ... it's a cop-out, stop pressuring her for sex, give her space, try to "date" her again and do the romantic things, etc. Not sure if any of these really apply for me - just wondering if I've been dwelling too much on the crossdressing part of this - when it's the return of feelings that I need to be working on?