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Originally Posted by mojo321
But I can't help but want to analyze how this particular group of people and their type arrive at their subconscious conclusions about me, and make the subconscious decision that I don't fit in. Which is where I started this thread, on my height.
The part that I need to learn is, that's OK. If that's how they are, then why would I want to be friends with them anyway! I just want to be myself, and if that isn't good enough in personality OR in looks, then I'll just move on!
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In order to draw conclusions, about this particular group of people, in your life, one would need to know the history involved with these people and your involvement with them. Did something not go right in the past? On this day, did you interrupt a conversation, private group conversation, or were they over there, literally smirking as you came over?
Have they ever said to you, "Oh, here comes' shorty!?" Have you been teased about your height, before, by them?
Let's talk about tall and short people, for a moment. If this is going to be based upon, your own, height, then lets see it through the eyes, of another 'tall girl' on this forum. And let's talk about two-sided teasing that occurs in life. I am 6 feet tall. I wear heals! Prefer the wedge types and that's just that. 'Oh, why are you wearing those, aren't you already tall enough?' hmmm, let's see, same reason why other women wear heels. Make my legs look long and slender, that why!! When I was a teen, attended a family wedding, had a woman Army Sergeant tell, me, 'just remember, you CAN be tall and wear heels! Don't forget that!!' Guess I didn't forget that. My height, along with the confidence thread, somewhere else, comes across as intimidating!
Have I not dated a man, due to height? No.
Now, let's talk about all the shorter people in my life, for a minute. Mainly girls. Hey, guess what I could do, at a club, that they appreciated me for...scan the room!! Literally. Where they, intimidated, to be my friend, no.
I used to work with a woman, that was 4'11". We were dubbed, Mutt and Jeff, because of the height difference. We broke down the job duties, based on levels of what worked best for our height!! Quite a team!
Most of the tall people in my life, played sports. But do you know what is needed on a basketball team?! Or even a volleyball team? Guards and defense. Stick the tall girl, near the hoop, in the center, or the tall girl at the net to block. The shorter girls, perimeter and back defense--they can get lower to the ground faster that the tall ones.
What, makes your shorter stature a hindrance in life? Are you so certain, either side of the height chart is better than the other? Each was designed to be the way it is.
I am not certain, it's your height. There must be a history, in your case, with these people!