Well, that was honest, FeelingQpague, and you can't beat honesty for friendship. Being tactfully
honest takes training and skill, so you'll want to think before you speak, frankly.

You feel like hitting something? You could release a lot of unconscious aggression that
way---just be careful what you hit! (I'm not trying to be funny; it is true, though, that laughter does release unconscious anxiety or aggresssions and is one way to heal.)

I'd look for friends who don't seem to be judgmental. It's so hard to become
non-judgmental. It requires truly living by one's deepest principles not to be judgmental, and it takes knowledge of oneself to stop that in oneself. So, if she's an adult and
still engaging in that, I'd seek friendships that were, as you say, non-judgmental.

Take care.