I'm in the same opinion, stop the planning. As a guy, I can tell you, honesty about sexual issues is a VERY difficult thing.
We like certain things, but don't want to lose our wives over it. So we end up lying. That is BAD BAD BAD.
If you feel insecure about losing HIM, and he therefore gets away with this deal, then you are setting yourself up for a long marriage of being the ball and chain that he has to keep just satisfied enough, while he meanwhile lives a bachelor style life with the convenience of a wife to come home to.
Yikes. None of that sounds good.
But if you really love him, and he really loves you, then you HAVE to settle this. First, you have to make him understand that you understand that men have lots of sexual temptations. Then he has to admit what happened. Then you guys have to agree to be each other's ONLY outlet for those sexual needs. That means total honesty about what those needs are. And it means not ACTING on any of those outside temptations.
THEN you will find out what he is REALLY like and you can decide how to proceed. But right now, you are planning on marrying a guy who hasn't included you in 100% of his sexual thoughts. The future will either scare you off, or he will hide his true sexuality, or you will both find complete bliss with each other, or you will both have to find some compromise (which is difficult when it comes to sex. It tends to take YEARS to solve in a marriage)
All of the above is just my opinion.
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