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Originally Posted by scorpiosis37
The fact that you are comparing not being included in a conversation with strangers to children who get bullied and people who get emotionally abused is really quite offensive, especially to those of us (like myself) who have suffered both of these experiences.
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Me too! I guess I just see this as a grown up, Nicey-Nice version of something similar. I agree completely, that it is NOT as nearly as serious of an issue.
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You seem to want to see yourself as a victim, and are willing to try any excuse to blame someone else for your not being included (you're short, people are prejudiced against short men; they're snobs, they pre-judged you!) If we refute one hypothesis in our comments, you find another. Anything so it is not your fault. I'm not saying you've never been the victim of some kind of discrimination or mistreatment, but you have to think about these things in proportion. What you're talking about is not on the same level as bullying, emotional abuse, race/sex/class discrimination, or even weight discrimination. If people who suffer these more significant kinds of discrimination manage to make friends, date/marry, and get ahead at work, what is really stopping you?
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Nothing. Nothing is stopping me. In fact, life is really pretty good for me, and I can't complain too much. But when I see it happen, and now the kids of these people are treating my son with actual bullying, perhaps I see a real trend. I feel like we are being sorted. I guess I feel like my church and school is very "sorted" into groups. I am not imagining it, and it isn't just "all me". The mere fact that we are sorted seems to give power to the people doing the sorting. I know there will always be people like this, and for most of my adult life I have found refuge in actual friendships. I guess I am just re-emerging into this world of "social status" now that I have kids in gradeschool. I really hate it.
Am I a victim? Or am I making myself a victim? I think the answer to
both of these questions is yes.
I can work on myself to fix the latter. Just because there are people in the world that are truly exclusive by self proclamation doesn't mean I should be giving them any more power by hum-drumming over being excluded by them! I think that's a healthy view. Right?