I know it feels hard now, but think about how lucky you were to have had a mom who wanted to hear about your daily life! Most people never had that, either as an adult or as a child. For some, entering therapy was the first time they've ever felt listened to. Often, T is a substitute for what we never had. But you had your actual mom listening (at least listening "good enough"). So, in some ways, you're already a step ahead. And, while I know you want to tell your T everything, I think it's good that you're realizing that isn't what therapy is for. T is not just a receptacle for you to fill with endless information. That won't help you. Therapy is about working on the specific issues that are holding you back and preventing you from living your RL to its fullest. T has already helped you identify what a lot of these issues are, and she has encouraged you to take back some of your power around these issues. You can clean your house; you can buy shelves; you can work on your marriage or choose to leave; you can travel; you can "insert here." As hard or impossible as it may seem, these are things within your control and your T is trying to help you work on these, rather than use her (or an image of her) to fill your thoughts so that you don't have to deal with them. She's trying to help you work on this by (finally) being a little more solid about the e-mail boundary and encouraging you to find an outlet for your thoughts/feelings other than her. So, use this opportunity to share more of those details with your H, your friends, or other people in your RL. And listen to the details of their lives. Give someone else the opportunity to share their details with you. It can feel really good to be able to give that gift to someone else. I know it may seem "unfair" or counter-intuitive, but when you feel you're lacking something, giving that thing to someone else actually helps fill up our own void. Whenever I wish I had a mom or someone to be there for me, I go and pick-up the little 9-year-old girl I mentor and I do something nice for her. It makes me feel better to give that to her so, when she's 28, she won't have to say "I've never had anyone do that for me." Maybe, for you, listening to your H or listening to a friend would help you feel less upset about not having T there to listen to all of your details. And, it will get your mind off of T and help shift focus to your RL; win-win.

I also think it's worth noting that you seemed to be happier and better able to make progress in your RL during your (2 weeks?) off from T. Now that you've had your first session back, it seems the old feelings are rushing back. Does having a break from T help you? Do you feel more "in your life" when you don't see T that week?