It is a very challenging obstacle and if both people can communicate and listen to each other, it should balance out either way. Just take time at this moment for each of you to have space and just breathe. Still try to enjoy a sunny moment, a five minute rest listening to a bird sing, or a sunset, just something for the moment to stop all of the thinking and contemplating and what-if-ing. Remember a funny moment you both had ora movie or ice cream you both like and remember the similarities. Ask you partner if she remembers a funny moment.