My T once pointed out something that seemed so obvious/mundane but has had a positive effect on my life. She said, "No one likes to clean bathrooms".

Connection with another cannot happen through email because the two people are not together; feeling connected when you read or write an email is based on one's own fantasy thoughts about the person, not a result of being with the person in real-time. Connection also probably isn't going to happen when discussing trash and clutter I can see my husband's eyes glaze over in my mind and I haven't even said anything? Why, if my husband, to whom I have an excellent connection/understanding does not feel good/connected discussing trash and clutter, should I expect T to?

When you are with your T, you need to discuss whatever is on your heart, not try to find out what's on T's heart, not love/hate your house (don't think your house cares?), not grouse about your husband's peccadilloes but you talk about you. At some point near the end of your therapy with T, you'll be sharing how frustrated/angry/sad you feel right then with her. I guarantee she'll care, it will feel awesome and you'll leave the session on a high that won't go away.