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Originally Posted by D157R4C73D
. She had me when she was in her early forties after she'd already had several other children. There's about an eight year age gap between me and my closest sibling. You could say I was probably unplanned.
Is this a common thing? How would it be categorized psychologically? Would a mother actually want her children to turn out badly? (I actually don't believe it was just me)
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You write, that one could say you were probably unplanned.
Even if you were planned, you feel that way, and
I am so sorry you are left feeling that way. Speaks to feeling unloved, by the very people who are supposed to offer that love in the earliest of years and development!
Narcissism, could fit the bill, however, one book or even a handful will not help get you to the point of feeling that love, regardless if it wasn't willingly given to you.
There's some mother/daughter books out there, and I'll have to come back in here, to share them, after I post this. Even with that, do you have a therapist to call your own?