OK, I'm back. I have three titles, I'd recommend. Your post title had struck me, as a 'to read' thread. I have a step mother, that has children, three of them, that she seems to like remaining dependent on her, even in their adulthood. Seems unable to have created in them, a sense, of setting these now adult 'children' free to grow from her. And after half a lifetime of observation, I could see how it would 'appear' that she'd actively raise a 'fool'.
My own mom, she teetered on narcissism, but it was more a style that an disorder, so my accomplishments were about building herself up. It was my dad, that was the real narcissist in all this. It was tough to get praise from a narcissist. And when one strives to be 'perfect' and get that praise, one can reach a level of burnout and not reaching their fullest potential.

Here they are the titles. For the Mother Daughter books, I mentioned.

Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers [Paperback]

Dr. Karyl McBride
The Emotionally Absent Mother: A Guide to Self-Healing and Getting the Love You Missed [Paperback]

Jasmin Lee Cori MS LPC
Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grown-Up's Guide to Getting Over Narcissistic Parents [Paperback]

Nina Brown EdD LPC