All I can think right now is that they're 48 and 50 and acting that much like bratty children? Holy crumb they need to grow up and actually act like adults.

I wouldn't put up with racist crap either.

Who owns where you and your bf live? Is it a mutually-owned/rented place, or does one of you own it? If it's yours... I'd flat out say that James isn't welcome back in the house unless he stops saying racist crap.

And tell your bf that if he doesn't stand up against racist comments then he is also a racist. Slavery and whatnot went on as long as it did because people didn't stand up to it. It's the bystander effect and it's WRONG. Don't apologize for standing up for other people and refusing to tolerate that sort of s***.