I would say 2 things: 1, she probably didnt want to sound like a heartless beeyotch towards your friend. I think anybody's first impulse is to say oh im so sorry thats terrible. But when its your own t and you're talking about something sad or terrible, they dont want their own emotions to crowd us and take overand for us to worry about them or feel like their reaction is right and ours is wrong. It's a whole different thing. But I think it's interesting you reacted that way, and definitely worth talking to her about. "Why did you sympathize with my friend? I feel like you never sympathize with me." I can relate to that cuz I always came last in my mother's book too. But this t yeah he babies me to death.

2. Re Florida - well if you're gonna go anyway, why not talk about it before you do go, and feel like you have some control, like you're making a conscious decision. That way you can set some limits and then maybe not feel so bad or so driven to to it. Or maybe decide not to go after all.