My husband had a long-term affair, 4 years!!! I was in the dark for all but the last six months. He did give her up, say he wanted to stay married to me, went
to several sessions with me to see a marriage counselor. All good.

We have gotten to a much better place. I just cannot forgive him though. I am still so hurt.

He does not want to discuss anything to do with his affair. He says it takes us
"backward". I am sure he must feel awful. He does protect the other woman when I use bad language when I refer to her. I know that even though he said it was just sex, he had feelings for her - ouch!

I still hurt. I cannot forgive him. What he did was inexcusable!

Will I remain stuck without forgiving him?