It takes a lot of work and deliberate decision making to let go of the little things. Sometimes it takes something huge to put the little things in perspective. It's easier to focus on the little things than to take on core problem.

I do not subscribe to the "make her jealous" theory. That may be human nature, but in my opinion it's deceitful and juvenile. And how do you think the end game would play out should find out five years later that it was all a game? Do you want another skeleton to come flying out of the closet? I'm the "honesty is the best policy" kind of girl. My advice would be to sit her down and say "I love you. I said until death do us part and I meant it. I want to be with you. But if we cannot have a real marriage that is fulfilling to both of us it's time to move on."

What you decide to do is up to you. I thought that you were trying to rebuild a healthy foundation for a lasting marriage. Games are a form of manipulation in my opinion. There's a reason that relationships don't last in Jr. High.