What I have learned is that communication is essential in a marriage. You both need to talk about your expectations, your goals, your fears. You also should discuss what your own experiences have been in your families. A good place to do this is in a counseling session. But you can start tonight - just the two of you.

You need to work out fundamental issues like finances and housework, etc. It's all just one big negotiation, really.

Sex is so important. It does a lot of things, and they are all good! So go seduce him tonight!

Why are you having these doubts? What is happening? Ask yourself if you are being
realistic. What is your idea of a perfect marriage, what is his?

Good luck!