Ok but seeking out the attention for that specific purspose in mind is manipulation and a bit of a mind game. It's pre-meditated and it is definatly not honest unless he also discloses that he sought this out. Omitting truth or partial truths is still not the truth abd is still a lie.

Yes thinking can be weird, and feelings can be weird. As much as her choice might not make sense to many of us, it's well within her right to feel how she is feeling. I have a feeling the trust part might be the bigger problem. So more untruths is probably not the best way to sort it out.

I really believe that if you want to find true peace within you need to make sure your intentions match up with your beliefs.

Sorry Hammy, I still cannot agree. Businesses are very manipulitive no matter what they want to call it. And I can say I love someone and not expect anything in return. I don't say " I love you" to hear it echo'd back, I say it to express how I feel.

If people want to work together in their relationship and make comprimises they both want to make.. that is not manipilation. Doing things intentionally and hidden in order to sway the other for your benefit all while knowing that the other person would be opposed is. No one wants to have the wool pulled over their eyes.