Yeah we might gorge ourselves at first, and then go back to starving ourselves of contact, but I think the point is to "right-size" the amout of contact. For those of us who were neglected, we've learned not to impose (on the parent in our past), but sometimes that means we don't call when we really should - the other person(our partner in the present) is left worrying. So yesterday my t called me to check how I was handling the extreme heat and said he would call again today. When he didnt call, I texted him to let him know I was okay, and he texted me a short note back. I felt that my taking that initiative showed me taking responsibility for the relationship.