You have to take responsibility for yourself and your actions, no matter whether you like doing them or not. Responsibility is not about liking something or not. It sounds like you are sort of young and do not want to move in with Jane (or have Jane move in with you). There is no right or wrong about that, it is about what you and Jane both want and decide to do but you do have to be honest about it. You have to say to Jane, "I don't want you to move in with me but I do still want to date you" knowing that Jane may say, "Well, I want to live together and eventually get married and if you won't do that, then I'm leaving".

You cannot fence sit your way to a happy relationship or try to cover all the bases, have a lot of girl "friends" Jane does not share and still have an exclusive relationship with Jane. It is fine to want to go to the show by yourself but you have to acknowledge to yourself that is what you want; it sounds like you are trying to "should" your way through a relationship, "should" want Jane, "should" be glad she's over controlling, etc.

I think you should decide what you want and do that. You cannot make other people want what you want though and you can't make yourself want what you don't want. There is no conflict in knowing what you want and going for it. It's life that if you do X you cannot do Y; don't be the monkey with the fist in a jar wanting to keep it all

The Monkey's Fist: An Ancient Parable for Modern Times - NSCBlog