Aren't separation and attachment two sides of the same coin? After you are fully attached, you feel safe to separate. Like an Oreo. And there is still good stuff between you. But if you're enmeshed, like a chocolate chip cookie, to separate means to break apart.

Why didn't it happen with this t? If it wasnt happening in little increments every session, then how could it add up to something positive? Now with the end looming over you, you can either continue on the same track or change tracks. Whatever that means to you.