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Old Jul 19, 2013, 12:57 PM
boredporcupine boredporcupine is offline
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Originally Posted by hankster View Post
Aren't separation and attachment two sides of the same coin? After you are fully attached, you feel safe to separate. Like an Oreo. And there is still good stuff between you. But if you're enmeshed, like a chocolate chip cookie, to separate means to break apart.
Love this analogy!

Rainbow, sometimes I do wonder if sharing lots of mundane life details with your T is kind of a substitute for feeling a real connection, which you're not yet good at. I'm not even sure what I mean by that, but it just enters my mind.
Thanks for this!
unaluna