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Originally Posted by hankster
Aren't separation and attachment two sides of the same coin? After you are fully attached, you feel safe to separate. Like an Oreo. And there is still good stuff between you. But if you're enmeshed, like a chocolate chip cookie, to separate means to break apart.
Why didn't it happen with this t? If it wasnt happening in little increments every session, then how could it add up to something positive? Now with the end looming over you, you can either continue on the same track or change tracks. Whatever that means to you.
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I do feel fully attached to my T. I like your cookie analogy. I'm not enmeshed because I know I CAN separate from her. It's just HARD to do. There's a lot of good stuff between us. I have to remember that. I'm somewhere between and Oreo and a chocolate chip cookie. I don't know what you mean? What didn't happen? I'm attached to her. I know she cares deeply for me, and she will always be in my heart. It's positive but it still hurts.
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Originally Posted by boredporcupine
Love this analogy!
Rainbow, sometimes I do wonder if sharing lots of mundane life details with your T is kind of a substitute for feeling a real connection, which you're not yet good at. I'm not even sure what I mean by that, but it just enters my mind.
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I do feel a real connection with my T. It's VERY real, but I also want to share the mundane deals. She's a package deal for me, and it's hard to give that up.