Try to work less and socialize more - you have loads of friends, so capitalize on that. Being a workaholic will burn you out eventually - you need to tone down workaholism and pick up socialization/relationships/sex - those kind of things. To become more rounded, so to speak.

Do not talk to your parents who are aged about your workaholism problems, not just out of a desire to not give them more worries, but because they cannot be helpful - they have not lived through the reality of modern corporate America.

There might be books on how to set realistic expectations of yourself in the eyes of colleagues and managers. Maybe post on the "work and careers" forum on this site, and you might get answers.