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Originally Posted by AAAAA
I don't think that trying to avoid the pain of ending a long term relationship makes her vapid. Nor do I think she's on that path to war. I think she's doing everything within her power to avoid any type of confrontation that will bring it to a head, but instead hoping that he'll get the hint and leave her in peace.
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Men and women truly do speak different languages.
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Personally, I have not found it to be the case that women and men speak different languages, because I relate to and understand some men but not others well, and, some women but not others well. Do not see any patterns emerging along the gender lines. But to the extent that she is pushing the burden of facing the pain from herself fully onto her husband, she is being:
- possibly immature
- possibly vapid
- possibly a coward
and a number of other things, but either way, this is not an endearing personal quality.
This is because
somebody has to take the pain. She understands it - she is not 2 years old. If she pushes responsibility away from her, she is not making the pain
disappear by magic, but, rather, she is pushing the pain of making difficult decisions onto her husband. Whatever word(s) we use to describe a person who is pushing the responsibility for making difficult decisions solely onto her husband, we probably would agree that the person lacks in certain important qualities. Hence, the words we are using, while different (vapid is not equal to immature), both carry strong negative connotations.