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Jul 19, 2013, 07:40 PM
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Member Since: Nov 2002
Location: Mid World
Posts: 18,104
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Originally Posted by Kendyll
That said, I would never let the possibility of future grief stand in the way of enjoying present relationships. Yes, I will someday grieve if I love, but today the love and friendships are so powerful and positive it really does make it worth it. It's like...I grieve every time one of my cats dies, because I loved them and they were part of my life. But that doesn't stop me from getting other cats, because I enjoy having them in my life. The same kind of thing with people. I enjoy having people in my life - friends and family. I know there's a good-bye somewhere down the road, but I don't let that overshadow the joy of today.
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I am going to second what this poster said. Not allowing oneself to love someone - person or critter- deprives one of so much. I quoted one of my favorite songs in my Mom's eulogy "I could have done without the pain, but then I would have had to miss the dance."
Everything is life is temporary. Living things die. Material things break or wear out. The key is to gain as much joy out of what is while it exists.
1205am, you asked if grief is as bad as some people say. That's hard to answer. I've lost my entire bio family one by one, my spouse and following my husband's death, my in-laws cut me off so I "lost" them too. I won't even get started on the huge number of fur family members that have died. The grief of each death was individual. Some hurt like holy bejeebers. Some hurt less than that. And I would not give up one second of the time I had with any of them to avoid the pain I felt when they were gone. The thing is that we eventually recover from the pain and find a way move on in life. The pain never completely goes away. It just becomes more manageable with the passage of time.
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