I think your assessment is pretty accurate, riot. I do feel worthless enough already. Not only am I incapable of contributing financially right now, and never will be able to pull in as much as he does, but because I have physical limitations as well as psychiatric difficulty, I can't even do as much around the house as a typical homemaker does. For example, I can either vacuum the carpets, or sweep and mop the linoleum floors, but not both of those in the same day. If I do too much physical labor, it puts me totally out of commission for several days afterward.

Whether it's bills or chores, the undercurrent in what he is going on and on about is, "I have to do it all." And that totally discounts whatever I *am* able to do. He automatically assumes he is going to have to do a chore himself, even if it is something I have been doing with a fair amount of regularity. Last night he said something about how it looks as if he is going to have to do laundry over the weekend, despite the fact that I had a load going in the washer right at that very moment!

I did try to tell him how it made me feel, but when I got to the part about thinking he's better off without me, he stopped me and said he didn't want to hear any more of that. So no, I really can't discuss it with him.

To hear him talk, he's the only one that ever contributes anything to the running of this household, either financially or industrially, and nobody else does a darn thing around here. And I'm getting just a little tired of being so unappreciated. I did manage to get that much said, to which he replied, "Well, I said thank you for bringing in the mail and the trash cans..." Then he thought it over and said thank you for each of the chores I had gotten done. That's fine as far as it goes, but then if his whole conversation afterward is to continue moaning about the burden he has to bear, it doesn't make me feel like I've taken very much of that burden off of him by what I'm able to do.