I have daily contact with my therapist and it's a lifesaver for me. I have gone back and fort on the issue, often wondering if it's too much or somehow "untherapeutic" or unethical. It boils down to this: basically, I hate rules and "black and whites" regarding therapy. Everyone has their own very different set of needs regarding outside contact. My hope is that everyone finds a therapist who can understand these needs at the level of the individual!

When I first started therapy, I never would have imagined that I needed daily contact. I didn't go in looking for a relationship. However, the daily contact is crucial to maintaining trust and continuity for me, as much as I judge myself for it. In therapy, we frequently discuss how someday I will learn to "carry her with me" but I'm not there yet and feel safer and more stable being able to reach out, even if it's just to say hello and exchange a few words. She is professional enough to handle the boundaries and I try to remember to trust that she'll tell me when enough is enough. I think right now she is very pleased that I am finally to this point, and I am very pleased that she is so accommodating and that I have been able to first recognize that I had this need, and second, be in a position to have the need met by someone I trust.