Reflected on this passage for a bit. You are being 'thanked' for something that you would normally do. When I think about kids, do I expect to thank them, for every little thing that they are supposed to do? no.

Maybe, your husband, is the type that just is talking aloud? OK, I've got to do this, this , that, this..etc? And, he did marry you in sickness and health, right? So, he's pulling some extra weight around the home, because he's a 'caregiver'?

Maybe, a way to rework the thought process, instead of looking at it, as you aren't making it 50/50 in the home, you are doing what you can. And look at it, as he's helping too. Granted, you can't bring chores and finances to the table, you are his wife, and maybe, he's just speaking out loud, a mental check list of sorts?? He may be happy, just knowing you are there?!

Is he like that at work, do you know? running mental checklists, of things he needs to get done?