Your therapist handled this poorly unless there's much more to the story than I'm hearing. It's her sole function to help you heal and grow, she should not take you on as a client and get through 10 years of a relationship with you, without being able to manage her reactions to you and to work through transference. Did she even try? Did it escalate more than you've alluded to here?

When I was about... 17, I saw a therapist and was working through sexual abuse and other difficult issues. I was bisexual and she was a lesbian. I began asking her for hugs. I began eroticizing them, unintentionally. I would get turned on during the long embraces she gave me, it was very uncomfortable. That therapy ended terribly, actually, she violated my confidentiality and it was a deeply negative experience, so I feel for you. In retrospect, though she was kind and tried to be helpful, she simply was not competent with me.