You're not over the top. SHE was over the top. That's what I was thinking this week when people here were telling me that I was over the top. When THEY are over the top, you're like, they can't possibly mean this - nobody would actually be this bizarre and mean. It becomes absurd. And - thats what Psychology Today once said the great comedians all had in common - absurd childhoods and high intelligence. You can't make sense of absurdity kinda by definition. You just have to set it aside. Or replace it with something else, which is what a sweet therapist will try to do. Grow a new part of your garden. Put stones over the polluted part.