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Originally Posted by Lovebird
Surely he's figured out by now that we're willing to pitch in where needed. Instead of "thinking out loud" about everything *he* has to do, prompting me to assure him one of us will gladly do it, how about if he just asks us to do it? That's what I don't get. Unless it's force of habit.
Which reminds me. Earlier on in our marriage, he did used to ask me to do such routine jobs as washing the dishes or cleaning the litter boxes, things I do regularly whether asked or not. I used to take mild offense to that, wondering why he considered me so incompetent as a homemaker that he'd have to tell me to do those things, but then he gradually stopped telling me
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Do you see what I see in the above? That you are not happy that he doesn't just ask you outright to do something rather than 'thinking out loud'. And then you write that earlier in the marriage you took mild offense to him doing exactly that... and he stopped telling you.
I think you guys really do need to talk! I wonder if a lot of the upset and slow-building resentment is born out of bad communication?
