Wisewoman, I'm glad that she's not pregnant, but one part stood out from your original post, about "She hasn'tlearned anything from her life with us". Just because someone accidentally gets pregnant, it could have been just that -- an accident. Even with the best precautions, pregnancies sometimes do happen and PLEASE don't beat yourself up. I know that you did the best you could to teach her solid life skills. It would not have been your fault, ok?