((MissMayer))

First you should have your Thyroid checked to make sure you are not dealing with hyperthyroidism which many people have, but don't know it.

It sounds like you are using Xanex as a crutch, some use Klonopin/clonazepam too.
These are sedative's and "do" wear off and they do "not" solve problems and it is important to remember they "are" sedatives/depressants and they do "lower the metabolism" too.

Some people end up on "drug treatment" programs and then just go along without really getting into therapy and actually getting to the "root" of their anxiety issues, and there "is" always a root.

Now, I am not telling anyone "not to take their medication". What I am saying though, it to pay attention to "why" you may be experiencing anxiety and reaching for that xanex or whatever to help you to "cope" somehow.

Also DBT "is" a therapy that can prove to be extremely helpful so you can actually learn "skills" to help you consciously work through your anxiety instead of constantly turning to "depressants" to help you with your "emotional challenges and sense of being threatened if you venture out to interact with others in society".

When we are challenged with anxiety that seems to come out of nowhere which in turn leads to more and more desire for "isolation", that means there is a need to "stop" and figure out where this "anxiety" is coming from "within" ourselves. If someone chooses not to work on this, what can happen is a cycle of "anger that can become critical of others, yet turned inward as well that leads to depression that can become "debilitating".

Unfortunately, many people struggle because of some of the "negative and dismissive" messages they received while growing up. By studying children more and more as well how our brains actually process information and develop, we are now learning more and more about how unmet needs and stress in the home environment children grow up in can affect us for the rest of our lives.

Because parents tend to raise their children based on how they were raised, what often happens is "dysfunctional" messages tend to get handed down from generation to generation in families. Often it goes un-noticed because after all, family units tend to begin to believe that "most of the problems" are simply inherited. However what is really happening is that "dysfunctional" methods of interacting and problem solving and establishing a sense of worthiness are simply just "perpetuated", which can mean, "unhealthy" "core issues".

One of the common recent messages is to "stay away from your dysfunctional family" so you can work on healthier coping skills. Yes, that is true, because often what happens in families is family members settle into "roles" and these "roles" can reinforce the "bad messages" that started the "anxiety issues" in the first place.

Our internal senses of "self worth" and "unmet needs" or "habits of trying to overcome these unmet needs" can lead to many struggling with finding a sense of "balance" when interacting in society and learning how to have a sense of "safety and ability to provide for self". What eventually happens is a cycle of "poor self esteem" that can lead to "anxiety and depression issues" that leads to a constant internal battle, that is not really the "fault" of the person who is struggling.

Often as time passes, there can be some kind of deep desire to "want a redo" somehow. If only I could go back and somehow "fix" what is lacking, maybe I could be better. Even a deep sense of "why can't I really grow up and just be "my age" and be "ok"? There again, something is missing.

The bottom line IMHO, is that no medication is going to really "fix" what is missing.
What actually "does" help the most is finally addressing the areas in "self" that had needs that were not met. It does take time, however, with the right therapy and finally learning to identify and develop new skills to finally be able to "overcome" these deep anxieties better, a sense of finally "gaining and growing and controlling the anxiety" finally begins to take place.

The sense of "I am alone" begins to slowly open up into, I am really not so alone after all takes over. And "slowly" the new "skills" that are being learned begin to help the individual slowly "feel better and more in control". IT DOES TAKE TIME, however, if one makes the commitment to finally "self nurture and self care", the need to constantly medicate is "less and less".

OE