Reducing my amount of contact hasn't really been a goal for me, because my T doesn't mind it and I have no other pressing reason to reduce the amount. I do know that I "need" less now than I did in the past, even if I don't actually USE less. I also use it for different purposes.

In the beginning, I used email a lot for asking if T was still there, or whether she was fed up with me yet. I almost never have to ask those things any more. I also sometimes used it for saying stuff I couldn't bring up in session, but now I can say almost anything to her face.

I used to ask for a call back from T only when I was in crisis mode, and it would take me 3 tries or more of hanging up before I could leave her a message. These days, if I have a reason to want a call back from her (and I no longer feel like I have to be in totally dire straits to do that), I call and leave a message in one try. The last time I asked for a call back was because our session ended badly before I was going on vacation, and I just wanted to smooth things over with her before I was gone for several weeks.

When I started, my mental idea of T was very unstable. For several months I couldn't picture her in in my head at ALL between sessions. I also kept thinking she was about to get fed up with me or start acting cold or something. Now I have a good mental image of her, and her personality in my imagination pretty much always stays the same.

Another thing that has changed about my emails is that I write them much faster now. I used to obsess a lot over what I wrote, and apologize a lot but now I pretty much just write them in one go and send them. I used to worry about whether something was "important" enough to write about but I don't any more. If I feel like I need to vent about something, I will fire off a quick email of a few lines and say I don't need a response, and I feel better right away because I feel less alone in it, even without a response. I expect that later on I will feel less alone in stuff even without having to email about it.