Here is an example... My H suggested we stop to get milkshakes (my H loves strawberry milkshakes)at this little ice cream stand on the way back from dropping our son off at summer camp. I hadn't even thought about it but said how nice something cool would be since we just stood in a hot registration line. While standing in line we realize they only take cash and we gave it all to our son...so the person ahead of us tells us there is a water ice (I love water ice...my H knows this)shop down the road that takes debit cards...
My H drives right buy the water ice place and heads directly home. Why because he doesn't like water ice....and what I want never enters his mind.

Should I whine and complain and give him a hard time for not stopping ? No. I plan to take myself out for water ice in a few minutes... I cannot make my H think about me...it's not within my means/ control.... I could divorce him and look for a man who would but why disrupt my Ss lives when I can just take care of me.