You know... I have worked hard in the last probably 6-9 months in T when it comes to understanding why it is important to trust/feel safe/ be vulnerable in my marriage. Granted- I am probably no where near close to where I should be.. I have pushed aside some feelings that I was having.. To really work on my relationship. I am NOWHERE near perfect, I am the first to admit it.. I have kissed somebody else, I have spoken inappropriately to people other than my h.. But I am the working on my issues, week after week, I discuss rape, sex, incest- not only to make myself to better, but to make myself better in order to save my marriage. Its all for nothing.. I am trying- and he doesn't. He knows the right words to say, he might be good for a little bit, but in the long run.. he has issues and he is not trying to get help for. Why am I the only one that has to do the changing?