Hi all! I'm new to the forum and wanted to reach out for some support. It's definitely much needed. I have a "friend" who I thought was a good friend. Earlier today he said something rude to me which was actually quite triggering. My father was verbally abusive, so hearing his rude comment 1. hurt my feelings and 2. brought up a lot of other emotions and memories.

He became very angry with me and said he did not understand why I would let my emotions get the best of me. He is becoming more and more judgmental of mental health, stating that you are essentially lazy and useless if you don't try to move yourself out of a depression or "just deal with it" as he says. He showed very little sympathy while I tried to explain to him where I was coming from. It's just been a rough week in general so what he said was the icing on the cake, and I just could not believe that he said it.

Right now I am not sure how to let go of my anger towards this situation. As many times as I tried to explain he did not budge and said he stood by what he said, which I found to be hurtful because he's supposed to be my kind and caring friend. Now I feel like I am seeing him in a different light.

Should I distance myself from him? How do you cope with people who just don't get it or don't want to get it?

I need to move on and it's hard when I am so consumed with hate towards him right now.