I don't think this issue is all yours.

I'm sorry if you find what I have to say upsetting, but your husband isn't being as supportive as he should be. You shouldn't feel obligated.

Men can survive without sex. A man who is miserable because his wife can't sleep with him while working through trauma needs to take a good look at himself. Does he know what the problem is?

My H knows I am working through some trauma and is putting zero pressure on me. We don't do it very often right now, and we talk about that and how we both feel about it.