Yes, you are correct. However, it is unjust for someone to build their self-esteem by belittling others. And if I witness it happen, and the victim doesn't have the self-esteem made of steel that Perna has, I will cry foul.

I do not like blaming victims of injustice. Granted, when it comes to emotional abuse, we all are only victims of our own perception. Does that make emotional abuse a non-issue? Of course not.