or he has his own "issues"...but, i would feel the same and likely act the same as you in the situation because it feels like you are (or i feel like i am those times) desperately drowning and they are standing on shore saying "why didn't s/he take swimming lessons?" and "it's a nice day blah blah"----i hate when i have done this and then find out the explanation was actually simple and had nothing to do with me personally...