Okay... I think you guys think I complain to much about my H... that I have a victim mentality and that I should stop sympathy seeking and either **** or get off the pot... leave him or stop complaining cause you are all sick of hearing about it...

or of course I could be just projecting my own feelings

No I didn't. I already know he doesn't like water ice so why do I need him to stop. We were in the same vehicle so if he wasn't thinking along those lines then I could just wait to get home and take myself. I was trying to use it as an example of how we don't need to change the other person... we can change ourselves... I did't go home and feel sorry for myself and be all disappointed. I texted a friend and when she was able... (which unfortuneately was not till aftet the water ice place closed) we went to get ice cream.

Although I guessed that my point didnt come across because I sounded all complaining and sympathy seeking... when really it wasn't my intention which made me realize that I do it without intending...