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Old Jul 22, 2013, 12:23 PM
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Originally Posted by Readytostop View Post
No I didn't. I already know he doesn't like water ice so why do I need him to stop. We were in the same vehicle so if he wasn't thinking along those lines then I could just wait to get home and take myself. I was trying to use it as an example of how we don't need to change the other person... we can change ourselves... I did't go home and feel sorry for myself and be all disappointed. I texted a friend and when she was able... (which unfortuneately was not till aftet the water ice place closed) we went to get ice cream.

Although I guessed that my point didnt come across because I sounded all complaining and sympathy seeking... when really it wasn't my intention which made me realize that I do it without intending...
I don't think you sounded sympathy seeking. From an outside perspective, tt does sound like you had a couple of missed opportunities in your relationship. I don't see anything wrong with saying "Hey, I'd love a water ice, mind if we stop?" or since you were both looking for a treat, asking him if he wanted to go out for ice cream when you got home. Granted, you certainly didn't have to do either of those things, but I think they may have helped the two of you feel closer, rather than separate.
Thanks for this!
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