I am sorry that you are going through this. However, I am going to give you my honest opinion here because I spent five years with a man who was an alcoholic and we even had two girls together and that couldn't even change him. You will not be able to change this man nor demand that he change. This is only going to make you crazy! This man obviously doesn't see that he has a problem because those that are giving him feed back probably are the same way as he is and they support this type of behavior. Therefore, everyone points the finger at you and says you are wrong. Well you are NOT wrong! You don't deserve to be treated this way. However, you said you knew he had a drinking problem when you first got involved with him. Until he thinks he has a drinking problem and desires to change his life, then nothing will change. As much as you love him, you can't change him. You can go to a support group to help you deal with his alcoholism but you cannot take this burden on your shoulders. You have to decide if this is how you want to continue to live if he doesn't decide to change. Best of luck to you.